We all have a lucky day and more than a few tainted with bad luck. At least that is how we justify results when we don’t necessarily agree with them. These moments happen all the time.

A baseball player hits a home run when a gusty wind works in his favor sending the ball out of the park.

Judges may miss a mistake surprising a gymnast with a spot on the podium.

It is important to teach our athletes to handle controversial outcomes gracefully. They can be excited about the day that went their way. They can be disappointed when they lose unfairly. Both experiences offer life lessons.

Should Have Won

In sports where judges are doing the scoring, there are times when athletes and coaches disagree when results are posted. Generally, the athletes are placed as expected. Judges have strict guidelines and training to ensure a fair process when they are evaluating athletes.

What can be done when the results do not match the performance? 

When your athlete feels they deserved better placement, a higher score, and advancement following an evaluation, ask their coaches for their insight. Try not to react as a parent on a mission to right the wrong. Possibly, little may be done to change the results. Coaches may be able to respectfully approach a judging panel, referee, umpire, etc… for more information. A mistake may have been missed that impacted your athlete’s results. Another team member could have made a move that lowered the team score.

Requesting more information provides a learning opportunity for both coaches and athletes. The results may not change; however, everyone is more prepared for improving the outcome of the next event.

Luck On Their Side

I had days when I did not skate my best. I still passed a test or placed well in a competition. Those were my “lucky days.” I came away from those moments with a little more confidence. Maybe I skated better than I thought. Other times, I acknowledged the win as a gift and moved on.

My skaters and I celebrate the lucky days. We have all been on the other side. No bragging is allowed, but we are truly happy with the results.

Knowing the score may not have matched the performance, we strive for improvement for the next event. An athlete should always grow and not sit back on their laurels when practice resumes. An overconfident athlete has the self-confidence they need, yet they may lose some of the ambition to keep getting better. A few “lucky days” or unearned wins can cause someone to feel they are as good as they need to be. Realistic conversations with their coaches should help your child accept their good fortune while setting goals to keep playing stronger, learning new skills, and working for greater success.

We can all learn to take an athlete’s results in stride. Learn from the unlucky days and cherish the lucky days. Regardless of the score, keep the focus on the big picture. You want your child to love their sport. Being an athlete should build their self-confidence. Encourage them to aim high and continue to improve and develop new skills.